Single Mum 101

So.. it's been a while. I really need to blog more often, then maybe I could come up with a more exciting intro to my posts than 'It's been a while'. So from today, I'm going to start working on a weekly post.. I know you can hardly contain your excitement, right?

I'd say a lot has happened since my last post, but then i'd be lying. Turns out life as a single Mum is actually pretty dull. Not the time with the kids of course, that's as exhilarating, joyful, painful, and exhausting as ever! Looking after three kids on your own five days a week is HARD! But then everyone tells you that bit. Its the time without them no one warns you about.

First few weeks I was too much of a hormonal, broken mess, and so spent most of my kid free days wallowing in self pity, or being dragged out by friends to try and cheer me up. However as time goes on, friends have to go back to their normal lives, coping got easier, and then I had to start finding stuff to do. Now as a parenting team, finding time alone without the kids is a rarity, you pretty much forget what doing nothing even feels like, the rare night off, despite all your best laid plans usually end with you collapsing in an exhausted heap and just catching up on some much needed sleep. Now I have two nights, two whole nights, every week, where I have no little darlings running around the house, two full days of nothing. 

First few evenings alone were spent Bridget Jones style, drinking wine, and singing at the tops of my lungs. (much to the despair of the dogs and probably my neighbours) Of course instead of belting out Celines 'All by myself', I, like any self respecting alternative female, went with some Evanescence, and My Chemical Romance. Oh, also, throw some Coldplay into the mix occasionally, just to give it that real 'kill me now' feel. 

Back in the child free years, I'd have just gone out, wandered into a bar, been bought a few drinks, had a bit of a laugh, stumbled home at 2am. Now though, apparently people don't really 'talk' to each other anymore, so unless you go out with friends in the first place, you're left with the bar staff, who mainly just feel sorry for you, or some guy who was already drunk by midday and is mainly just shouting obscenities for the entire pub to hear. Also, what is this new obsession with 'pre-drinking'? Instead of going to a pub, enjoying your night out, half of it is now spent at home getting drunk before you head out, meaning most pubs are now empty until at least 10pm, by which time, nearly 30 year old me is getting ready to go home, to roll into bed.

After speaking to a few friends, I thought I'd give this 'Online Dating' thing a go, see if I couldn't meet some new people. Turns out, that doesn't agree with me either. 

1, I refuse to pay to be introduced to men I probably won't like anyway.

2. I'm not very 'interesting' on paper (or screen) reading, writing, socialising doesn't exactly entice men in..

3. Even when you do get talking to someone, 90% of the time they're only looking for 'casual relations' 

So basically, I've decided to just concentrate on me for a bit. I've been reading more, started going swimming, even thinking of joining the gym, so if you fancy a laugh, you know where to find me...